If you’re thinking about getting ready to propose to the most wonderful, beautiful woman in the world, you might be feeling a bit nervous or unsure of where to start. At AAA Jewelers, we frequently work with clients who are preparing to propose to the loves of their lives, so we have the best tips on what to do — and what not to do — when proposing to your future wife. (And yes, there is more to it than buying a diamond ring in Utah.)
Rom-coms and Disney movies would have us believe that proposals that come out of left field are romantic and successful. And it’s true that surprising your love with a gorgeous engagement ring in Utah is the right idea. But a proposal should not be a complete surprise.
Before you think about proposing to your significant other, the two of you need to have a conversation about marriage. It seems overly practical and unromantic to discuss it beforehand, but marriage is a big decision that your potential wife needs time to think about. Proposing to her without having discussed it beforehand puts her in a tough spot because you are expecting an answer that she probably does not yet have. When you know she wants to marry you, that’s when you propose.
Picking out a ring and having the Utah jeweler work on it can take a bit of time, but it’ll be worth the wait.
Although surprising her with a beautiful ring can be a romantic gesture, some women want to pick out the engagement ring themselves. If you’re not sure whether your significant other wants to select the ring, find out. The ring being a surprise is less important than getting the right ring — it’s a big investment, and your future wife will be wearing it for years to come.
If you do choose to surprise her with the ring, you’ll need to do a little sleuthing. Look at her jewelry and/or her Pinterest boards to get an idea of what she likes. Find out her ring size. You can do this by taking one of her rings with you to the jeweler.
AAA Jewelers is your jeweler in Utah that can help you find the perfect ring for your significant other. Our diamonds are GIA certified and we offer a variety of beautiful cuts and settings. We also make custom engagement rings in Salt Lake City (just make sure you plan ahead if you choose to go this route — custom rings can take a while to make).
It doesn’t need to be long or poetic. Just be ready to tell her why you love her and why you want to marry her. It can be as simple as one or two sentences. You don’t need to plan word for word what you’re going to say, but you should have an idea. Write down some notes if that helps you.
Practice what you’re going to say, especially the “Will you marry me?” part. It’s a big question, and you want to be prepared to ask it with confidence. It might seem silly, but saying it a couple of times in the car or in the shower can help you feel ready.
Unless your significant other has told you she wants a public proposal, stay away from ideas that involve popping the question in front of others. Putting her on the spot in public might make her uncomfortable, and in the event she says no, things could get extra awkward. Grand public gestures might look romantic in the movies, but in real life they usually don’t go quite as well. And yes, that includes jumbotron proposals.
While it might be tempting to simply Google “best proposal ideas” and choose one from a listicle, your best bet is to propose in a place that will be personal and special for your significant other. Rather than just choosing the fanciest restaurant you can find, plan something that is specific to her. If she has a favorite hiking trail or art gallery, that might make a good proposal location. If she has a favorite meal, you could make it for her at home. You could take her somewhere simple but significant in your relationship, like the park bench where you sat together on your first date. Whatever location you choose, we recommend zhuzhing it up a bit with flowers, candles, or something else to set the mood.
For some of you this tip will seem obvious. For others it will seem like overkill. But seriously, she wants you to get down on one knee. When she tells her friends about the engagement, her friends are going to ask whether you did it. When she tells the story of the proposal to your children and grandchildren, she’s going to want to be able to say that you did it. And don’t you want her parents to know you got down on one knee for their daughter?
This doesn’t have to be anything big. It can be as simple as opening a bottle of champagne at home or going out to a nice dinner. But if you know your girl is very close with her friends or family, you might plan to gather with them to celebrate after the big moment. Or if you’re both fans of big gestures, you could follow it up with a romantic getaway. As long as you’re thinking about what she wants, you can’t go wrong.
If you want to propose soon but don’t have the right rock picked out yet, AAA Jewelers is a great place to find gorgeous engagement rings in Utah. Our jewelers have been in the family business for decades, so we know a thing or two about helping lovestruck guys find the perfect rings for their brides-to-be.